Tuesday, May 24, 2005

The doctor appointment went well yesterday. Sheryl is really not as far along as he would like. Apparently, white boy babies struggle with lung development and he's afraid that if Sam comes too early, he might not be as developed as he needs to be. SO--it's a wait and see game. If Sam does not come by June 6th, then we will check into the hospital that morning. It's hard to imagine Sheryl going another two weeks, but we're both really ok with this. We want him to be fully ready and not have to leave him in the NICU. Please pray for Sheryl over the next two weeks.

Attention! For all of you who plan to have kids one day one of the best pieces of advice I have to offer is to polish up on your spelling expertise. It cracks me up how many words, and sometimes now sentences, we end up s-p-e-l-l-i-n-g.

"Should we go to the p-a-r-k today?"

"What day is that p-a-r-t-y happening?"

Now, a word to the wise--some spelling can be tricky. For instance, one has to get creative when spelling things like z-o-o or p-o-o-l. Our kids, 2 and 3, get those right away. Do any of you have stories or thoughts related to spelling or code words in front of kids?

Ella and Maddie are truly my children, for they love to say the word, "poop". Please, Lord, help me. Sheryl finally put her foot down and said that "poop" is a word that can only be used in the bathroom and is definitely not appropriate for the dinner table. (Maddie and Ella would sometimes just look at each other during dinner and say, "poop!!" and then die laughing.)

For the most part, they are complying. However, they've now discovered ways around it. For instance--last night in the van on the way home they began to say "poop!" and we reminded them that it wasn't appropriate. It was like there was a period of processing for about 30 seconds and then Maddie exclaimed,"Well, I actually (yes, "actually") have to go poo-poo, so that means I can say it. I have to go poop!"
I mean, how can you argue with that? Oh my.

One more sort of random thought today. Back to my post on Sunday about people struggling with their faith and spiritual life in general...it strikes me as interesting that many people who read and deeply soak in the writings of McLaren end up at this crisis of faith. It makes sense to me. I LOVE his books and they've caused me to have to think and process my faith. Honestly, it's something we should have to go through. However, for some, it's been this paralysis that seems to take over--not sure what they believe about church, not sure what they believe about Jesus, not sure what they believe about anything. Again, in my opinion, that's probably extremely healthy. I just wonder about those who seem to camp there without moving through it. The reason I wonder is because if we are to know people by fruit, what does skepticism , bitterness, confusion, anger, apathy, etc say about us? (I'm talking about people who stay in those emotions for years--not "visit") Those are all emotions I've dealt with at different times on this journey and still do, depending on the day. When I look at Brian (McLaren), I see a man who has the ability to ask questions and grow in his understanding without abandoning the joy of the Lord. The man is bubbling with the fruits of the Spirit. Why do so many people reading his writing not reflect that same fruit? I wonder if it's just that McLaren is way down the road in this discussion. I wonder if it's his spiritual maturity. I wonder if it's his connection with a local church, and all it's messiness that helps him balance things. I wonder, since he interprets scripture as a narrative, if he also is able to view his life and faith journey in that way--allowing for the times of serious questioning and doubt while still holding on to the anchors of faith. Just things I am thinking about today.

I am grateful for the freedom to explore what being a part of the Kingdom of God in Jesus Christ really looks like. Certainly, there are less walls than we imagine. Certainly, it's more about heart and less about form. Certainly, God wants us to care for the poor and struggling much, much more than we do. I can't wait to see how these things take shape. The Kingdom of God is much bigger and probably spreads in spite of (IMHO) what we do on Sundays. It's the hands and feet of those out in the work place. It's the lunch discussions that happen every day. It's the water cooler and coffee break encouragement that happens in office buildings around the world. It's people like David and Sarah Wilson giving up a high paying lawyer's job to live in Kenya and work with street kids for 6 months. It's people like Sheryl's cousin Kim going back to teaching in order to make a difference in the lives of kids. It's striking up conversation with other parents at the park and showing you care. It's caring for your neighbors and asking them into your house. It's how you treat your employees. There are so many things that seem to be Kingdom related that often go ignored. We think that if we could only get them into our church building on Sunday then, praise God, they'll be saved. I'd say that it's much more about what happens outside of that time that has a lasting impact in the lives of those around us. For those of you in the secular world, my heart, respect and prayers go out to you. You are making a difference. Praise GOD for you! Here's a part of a liturgy we did Sunday morning. It's my prayer for all of us today as we are light to a very dark world.

"O Savior of the world, who redeems us by your blood, we believe in you.
Shine your holy light upon our hearts, forgive us for our sins and loosen our tongues to speak of your glory."

PS: I liked Stephanie's idea--any guesses on day, time, weight, etc? Now that tomorrow's induction is off this could get really interesting. Let's see--the winner gets a free ZOE CD mailed to you by me.

20 comments:

CL said...

Hey BST, My daughter Hayden LOVES Miss Patty Cake and she wants to watch it so much that it has become a source of contention for us all. Hayden will come up to Susan and I when we're home and, she has a lot of words but, she'll pretty much just blurt out a bunch of non-congnitive stuff and finish it with "Patty Cayke. This means I would like to watch Miss Patty Cayke." And she gets upset if she doesn't get her way, so, we have begun letting her see Miss Patty Cake as a treat. So we have had to start asking each other "Honey, are you OK if Hayden sees MPC?" Were not quite to full spelling yet, but it isn't far away I fear. On another note I am not sure what it is about the words "poop" and "poo-poo" Hayden knows them very well, they were two of her first words(sadly). Must have something to do with her Daddy.

Anonymous said...

As you and Sheryl are well aware, Champ suffered from WWB syndrome(wimpy white boy) as described by our wonderful nurse. Whatever strain and physical suffering Sheryl must continue to endure will be worth it if she never has to see him in the NICU.
Let us know if we can help... love you man. I'm betting 9lbs 7 ounces.

Deana Nall said...

In Jan. of 2004, I went to the doctor to schedule surgery on what he thought was a cyst. During the ultrasound, we discovered the cyst was actually a very early pregnancy. I had had three miscarriages leading up to this, and I didn't want to tell Julia, our 4-year-old that I was pregnant again just yet. So I went to pick her up from her babysitter, who is one of my closest friends. I told my friend "It's not a cyst. It's a B-A-B-Y." Julia said "A baby??" That's when we quit spelling things in front of her.

By the way -- we have the sweetest little 9-month-old blue-eyed cyst you've ever seen!!

judy thomas said...

I am betting May 31--10.0 lbs; you can just wait and give me the new one. Love Mom

Clarissa said...

Just to keep you awake o'nights ... June 6th, 11 pounds. Tee-hee.

Owen B. said...

Already Sam exerts his own independent notions of when he should arrive on the scene. Get used to it! No predictions here. I think your mom should win the prediction contest, personally. :^D

But I wanted to offer an observation on Brian McClaren. He has not always been this way. He has gone through the pits at least three times by his own admission. The result speaks for itself. There is definitely fruit there. Really good fruit. (Jordan Cooper quotes someone on next-wave who refers to Brian as this "really nice pastor from Maryland.")

I think the anger, etc, comes from having the rug pulled out from under us (why I named my blog The Suture Zone). It comes from pride in the "new" knowing. It comes from fear. And there is a paralylsis at times. We're certainly not meant to stay there, but this is not an easy process and there are many pitfalls along the way. Getting beyond that, Brian is (at present) a walking testament to the work of the Spirit in the midst of this process in the midst of the Christian story.

Letting go of bad ideas about God (or better, letting go of my trust in my bad ideas about God) and my relationship with him based on those bad ideas may lead down some dark paths But I am confident (most of the time) that he is in the middle of the story with us and that the end is better than where we were to begin with. Not all will agree with that. But I have always said I would rather know the truth (there's that rationalistic word again) about God, the world, myself, Jesus, etc. I have no desire to live a fairy tale (nor do I think I am). Now, I say the same thing ("I would rather know the truth"), but I put a capital "T" in front of that word "truth." Puts the emphasis where it should be IMO. Walking with the living God as we let him be who he defines himself to be.

I don't necessarily see everything as McLaren sees it, or Roxburgh, or Sweet or whoever. But I think we need to ask the important questions they are asking.

Sorry to go on about this. I appreciate your post, Brandon. Very thoughtful. Sure wish I could have been at Emergent!

Prayers for Sheryl...

...and blessings!
Owen

Anonymous said...

June 6th - 10 pounds 4 ounces

Rob Cox

SG said...

OK OK I will change to June 4th and 9.6! So do both the birth and weight have to be right? :) HANG IN THERE SHERYL!!! Brandon I think you should wait on her hand and foot until June 6th...and certainlt for at least two weeks after...and you can tell her I said that! ;0

The trick with spelling or to avoid spelling, we substitute really big words that mean the same thing... instead of "pool" we say "aquadic recreation hole." Instead of McDonalds we say "the arches of heart attack." Instead of Party we say the "swaree de anos" (Nice mix of french and spanish there). We used to try saying things in Spanish but Dora the explorer ruined it for us!

About McClaren or emergent literature in general... I admit that sometimes I get down on church, and Christians, and even life if I read and dwell on McLaren books. Having never met the man it is hard to see him as joyous. BUT I usually emerge from these times more aware, with eyes open wider to the world around me. I still struggle with the torn feelings over church and our "Faith traditions". Sometimes I just don't want to think/question or talk about it anymore. Is that bad?

Stephen Bailey said...

June 2. 9lbs. 8oz.

Karen said...

June 3, 9 lb 7 oz.

Generous Kitchen said...

When Ashley was 3 we took her down Christmas Tree Lane...a street where each house elaborately decorates with lights and decorations...some moving, always amazing to see. We had just started when Ashley said..."hey look Daddy, they were tricking you...there is too an 'L'."

We weren't sure what she was talking about until we looked over and on the front lawn of this big beautiful house were the letters
N - O - E - L. She had heard the song and thought it said "No 'L', No 'L', No 'L', No 'L', born is the King of Israel."

By the way...she was ten days late and weighed in at 11 lbs ll oz. YIKES!

Clarissa said...

Can you guess more than once? I'm in need of free ZOE Cds.

Fajita said...

8 pounds 9 ounes on June 1st.

I say this to give Sheryl hope. I know she's huge and Sam will probably be about 27 pounds when he decide to show up in late July, but I'm sticking with my first guess.

Deb said...

My best guess for Baby Sam?
Sunday, 5th June, 10.2 lbs
The new CD will be just fine ...
:) Hugs!

Anonymous said...

Your great-great-great-grandmother, Talitha Isabelle Ingram Thomas, was born on June 4th, 1821, so I'm saying June 4th, 8 lbs. 2 oz.! How about that!?

Mark Lowenstein said...

Hey Brandon,

Love your bLoGs!! You're an inspiration to not only me but several deaf members who visits your bLoGs!! :) Anxious to see you all at Zoe in October..

I have a strong feeling that they'll need a back-up worship leader on Sunday, June 5th when you and Sheryl will have baby Sam in your arms at 8 lbs. 11 oz.

Beaner said...

Ed - that's just freaky! Do you guys say it really fast too?

My guess is June 3, 8 lb. 7 oz.

God bless you all!

JamesG3 said...

My grandmother would even spell things in front of older children and adults, never really catching on that everyone in the room knew what she was saying...no one told her either...lol.

My wife and I use Russian words (with poor out-of-practice conjugation) instead.

Deb said...

RE: Kiddie Codes:

Any of you youngsters out there remember Pig Latin?

But the real howlers that confuse are just learning and pronouncing words spelled backwords, as in:

Ice cream, anyone?

Eci maerc, enoyna?

Names:
Brandon Scott Thomas =
Nodnarb Ttocs Samoht

Sheryl Thomas = Lyrehs Samoht

Maddie = Eiddam

Ella = Alle

Sam = Mas

Claim it!
:)

Brandon Scott Thomas said...

interesting--lots of guesses for the 4th! Wonder why??